word vomit on my soapbox.

Why is it that girls are so mean to each other?

I thought it would end after high school.

However no, it has carried on to even past high school.

Even into after marriage.

I'm sure even until after my kids have grown up.

Recently, I've been hearing about a "friend" telling people she has a problem with me.

That she doesn't like me.

At first, I didn't believe that this had happened.

I thought we were friends.

Questions came racing through my mind.

Why wouldn't she come talk to me in the first place?

What did I do?

I know this goes out to all girls, and everyone has their own experiences.

This is just one experience I'm aware of that is fresh in my mind.

It's mean people like this why women have to always be better.

To look better.

To have better things.

Why by just being born as a girl, you have to deal with being better all the time.

It's reasons like this the norm is to have eyelashes like this:

Boobs like this:

Why people go to the gym for hours and hours and go on very restrictive diets to look like this:

Spend millions of dollars to have clothes like this just to define who you are:

From places like this:

Or something similar.

 (Don't get me wrong, I love this place, but I can't let it define me.)

Why people go out of their way to put on a show like this:

If you don't have these things, you're dumb, boring, ugly.... not worth a dang thing.

Why can't we all just be nice and normal?

What happened to normal eyelashes, Marilyn Monroe (gorgeous) bodies, normal boobs, and REAL LIFE?

Why can't we be nice, accepting, and uplifting to each other?

It's because of girls.

Girls are mean.

Girls are JEALOUS.

It will never end.

To be honest, being jealous seems to be wasted energy and fake.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses.

If you notice someone's strengths only, you may be jealous, but you're not looking at the whole picture.

Maybe she worked her butt off to get that strength.

I'm sure that girl is struggling in some way.

MAYBE IT'S YOU SHE'S STRUGGLING WITH.

But I can make a change.

I've realized if I make the change in my life, the problems will not affect me.

Being nice can start with me.

Not letting mean girls get to me can start with me.

I can make a change in my own life.

Follow if you'd like.

I want to think that I will make this big change in the world, and everyone will be nice, because I chose to be nice.

But that's not the case.

If you don't like me, don't be with me.

I promise, I will get along just fine without you.

If you do, come along, you're more than welcome, and I promise I will never try to be mean.

(If I am, check how long I've been sleeping and my stress load.  I promise I'm so sorry, and hope you will forgive me.)

I promise our relationship will be real.

This is my 2014 goal.

To be nice and real.

Now, excuse me as I step down off of my soapbox.